Holy moly, y’all-
Fall is here in North Texas. This past weekend we had two days of 30 degree temperatures and a couple of lovely 70 degree days. Let me tell you, I feel COLD. So much of my insulation is gone. I remember wearing flip flops all through the winter in Jr. High & High School and my mom always saying, “You’re making ME cold! Put some shoes on!” but I never really felt the freezing temperatures. Apparently, I’m making up for lost time.
This will probably sound strange to those of you who haven’t been around to experience it- but I gag when the temperature changes. If I walk outside in the summer, I gag because it’s hot. Walking outside to freezing temperatures (ex. laying linens on tables at 7:30am with 34 degree temperatures) makes me gag. Rapid temperature change and I have never gotten along well. It’s ESPECIALLY bad now. I went and had coffee with a girlfriend this past week and after stepping outside from Starbucks, it was a good couple of minutes of it. I’m assuming because I feel colder, it’s happening more. Who knows, honestly.
Anyway, I got pretty well stocked up on fall clothes from Debi’s wardrobe. I still needed a few nice work dresses and the big item- BOOTS! I donated all but one pair of boots from past years because they were literally all falling down. What a great problem to have! If you’ve ever been over weight or plus size, you probably know boot shopping SUCKS. It just does.
Here’s my top 5 reasons why plus size shoe shopping is complete BS:
5. It takes luck. Do they have my size? Will they even have anything I like?
4. It is STUPID expensive. Ah, ya got fat calves? $90 minimum on our boot monopoly, thanks for playing! Want boots? Better have a small fortune.
3. They all seem to have massive heels. Finding flat, all-day wear boots as a plus size woman was a lot like what I imagine searching for the holy grail felt like. When you did find a flat pair, they were back ordered or not quite wide enough.
2. You are at their mercy. Several years ago I remember looking AIMLESSLY for wide calve riding boots. Every Google search, Amazon search, Torrid, DSW, Zappos… NOTHING. Just wide calve hooker boots or wide calve pirate boots. However, regular width riding boots were everywhere!
1. It is endless frustration. Find one you like? It won’t go all the way up. You’re an 8.5? Sorry, we only carry 8 or 9. We only have 5″ heel boots. We don’t carry wide calve. These won’t be on sale until July. We only have wide calve sizes starting at size 10. $98 for faux leather that scuffs on the first wear. Just so frustrating.
So, there’s that. Basically it’s the worst. I’ve been eyeing a few cute pairs of boots for this season and have been hopeful to find a pair that wasn’t wide that would also fit! Lo and behold, ta-da:
Thank you, Amazon for the $30 boots! They are a 16″ calve with two fabulous tiny stretchy panels on the back. They fit like a glove and were frustration free. Whee!
Onto the next thing. This could probably be it’s own blog, but I’m throwing it all in here together.
I’m still in several online support groups and am fairly active on Instagram. I see these same themes & questions pop up ALL THE TIME from people who are looking to have VSG done or who are in the first couple of weeks post-op from VSG. Although I’m only three months out, I feel like answering them here may help some people. I hope!
-Will I have loose skin?
-Will it hurt?
-How long till I’m normal again?
-Will I lose hair?
-Have I stretched my stomach out?
-Will I still be hungry?
-When can I start drinking again?
-I just had surgery, why am I already stalling?
Skin: Yep, you’ll have loose skin. We all do! The degree of loose skin varies from person to person, but loose skin is crap reason to not have surgery. Life is infinitely better, jiggles and all!
Pain: Every single recovery is different. I’m saying it again for the people in the back: EVERY. SINGLE. RECOVERY. IS. DIFFERENT. I had a stupid easy recovery. If I told everyone that asked, “it’s easy! do it!” that would be a lie. Some people take weeks to feel normal. Some people still experience severe pain a month post-op. It is major surgery, pain is to be expected.
Recovery: I recovered quickly. By day 4, I felt like a person again. A week later I worked an entire bridal show weekend! Others take a couple of weeks or a few months. Some use 90 days of PTO for recovery! We are all different and all of our bodies recover differently. Nobody can answer this for you with absolute certainty.
Hair: Probably. Most people do! Hair is like skin, temporary hair loss is way better than morbid obesity. Hair will grow back when the follicles wake up again. It is still so worth it.
Stretched Out: Dr. Vong addresses this in several of his videos- VSG is not undone in one sitting. It is stretched out, “one bite too many, over a coupe of years”. I’ve seen countless posts from people in total panic because they ate a couple of extra ounces of cottage cheese. Y’all- you’re OK! You’re doing great! Some days you can eat a little bit extra. One meal will not stretch out your stomach. Trust the process. Listen to your body. Use common sense.
Hungry: Yep! Some are hungry right out of the gate. Others don’t feel hungry for several weeks/months. There are days that I feel like a bottomless pit and others where I could go the entire day without eating. Trust your doctor, follow the instructions, give your body quality food and you’ll be just fine.
Drinking: Some doctors say 3 months, some say 6 months. However- ask yourself, is it the right thing for my body? We have surgery as a last resort, major overhaul event! Falling back into old habits can be so harmful. Just like everything else, moderation is key. “is this best for me?” is a great question to continuously ask yourself.
Stalling: I read post after post of people who are a week out of surgery or a month out of surgery and they are angry and frustrated that they’ve hit a stall. “I’ve only lost 10lbs!” or “I’ve only gone down one size”. This is phenomenal! You are doing GREAT!!! The scale doesn’t move for a week or two, who cares? It had been over a year since the scale moved in the right direction before I had surgery. It certainly didn’t move 10lbs! Stalls happen! Trust the process, keep following doctors orders- you’ll get this! It’s ok to be frustrated, but keep in mind you are still recovering from having 80% of your stomach CUT OUT! Let it do its thing and give it time to normalize. We all want to wake up to the final product and be at our goal weight, but that doesn’t happen over night.
My best advice for anyone looking to have surgery is to read and learn EVERYTHING. Watch vlogs, read blogs, join communities online- learn it all and you’ll be more prepared.